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Woman Leaves Date After Man Only Bought Her One Drink
If you are a woman or know a woman, you’ve most likely said or heard the proclamation, “I’m done with men.”
We’ve all had our fair share of disastrous dates and relationships.
However, one woman on TikTok is receiving mixed reactions to reveal the reason that she is “done with men.”
The woman claimed to be “done with men” after her date only bought her one drink.
In a TikTok video that has been viewed over 1 million times, Taisa Taderera (@taisataderao1) shares her friend’s response after returning from a date.
When asked how the date went, the friend replies that she is, “done with men,” while leaning her head against the wall, visibly frustrated.
“I’m so done with men, they’re disgusting,” she continues while taking a moment to collect herself and sigh loudly.
Taderera explains that her friend’s date only bought her one drink for the entirety of their two-hour date.
“Like look at me!” the friend says, gesturing to her white dress. “Look at me, take me to dinner, like wine and dine, you know what I’m saying?”
“Like, don’t try to get all this information out of me over one drink that you don’t want to pay for,” she continues to vent. “I’m looking this great, and I don’t know, I just can’t with them, they just don’t get it, I can’t and don’t have time for them anymore.”
“Boys, do better on dates, do better,” Taderera said behind the camera.
The friend then makes the suggestion that they start reviewing the men they date to help them improve their current skills.
“Because at the end of the day, they’d be doing the bare minimum for wanting to be praised,” the friend added.
Some TikTok users agreed with Taderera and her friend.
“She’s so stunning and getting treated like this. Men should be embarrassed,” one user commented.
“It’s honestly embarrassing for ME to look this good on a date with a man who says so little,” another user wrote.
“She looks amazing, that’s a, I dressed up for an amazing night, kinda date,” another user added.
However, other TikTok users believed that one drink was appropriate for a first date.
“Actually, a drink on the first date is perfect,” one user wrote. “When multi-dating, the first date is a scan. Then you select a second date that is a wine and dine with the worthy ones.”
“I get it but I think he was trying to get to know you before wine and dine. It’s a tough world out there, most of us are broke. You look fire though,” another user shared.
Others believe that a friend should not expect special treatment simply based on how she was dressed.
“Are you saying the guy wasn’t looking great? How is your look supposed to be the only indicator of how to treat you?” one user commented.
“Why does he have to pay for you? Why is your time so much more valuable than his?” another user wrote.
“Men are the prize. You earn the ring darling,” one user expressed.
The question of what a first date should entail and who should pay is a divisive topic among many people, as this video proves.
Hopefully, both Taderera’s friend and her date can communicate and aim for a better second date so she can have time to rethink her “done with men” decision.
Megan Quinn is a writer at YourTango who covers entertainment and news, self, love, and relationships.
8 Tips to Quit Drinking Alcohol That Actually Work
At the end of every year, we all come up with our lofty New Year’s resolutions for how we want to better ourselves when January rolls around. Lists include popular ones like losing weight, getting a new job and giving up drinking. If that last one is on your 2023 New Year’s resolutions list, we’re here to help you learn how to stop drinking alcohol (or at least cut back, if that’s what you want) this upcoming year.
According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, more than 14 million adults in the US have what is classified as an alcohol use disorder. The sheer number of people in America who drink excessively is why it’s such a common New Year’s resolution — and studies show that about 25% of people who commit to giving up drinking each year are successful in the long term. However, when it comes to how to quit drinking alcohol, it’s important to understand why you’re drinking in the first place, surround yourself with people who will help you quit and celebrate your wins along the way. Here are a few helpful tips to stop drinking.
For more health tips, check out this self care routine for better sleep and best foods for healthy kidneys.
How to make a plan to stop drinking that works for you
There’s no one right way to go about quitting drinking — it’s all about figuring out what works for you and your lifestyle. And that starts with a plan. Here are a few things you should consider and actionable steps you can take
Examine your current relationship with alcohol
The first thing you have to do is take a step back and evaluate your habits. That means looking at your relationship with alcohol so you can understand why you drink, when you drink and how much you drink.
- Become aware of how much you drink: When drinking is part of your everyday routine, you start to forget just how much you’re actually consuming. It’s essential to examine exactly how much alcohol you’re drinking. Look at each drink as you put it in front of you and tally up how much you’re consuming a day.
- Identify the reasons you drink: Do you drink because you’re bored? Do you drink with friends and family? Do you drink because you’re sad? Do you drink because you simply like the taste? All of these are common reasons for consuming alcohol, and your next step in this process is to understand why you’re drinking when you do. Start a journal to keep track of what you’re drinking and why and see if there are patterns. This will also help you find new ways to satisfy a craving when it comes up. If you find that you’re commonly reaching for a glass of wine when you’re feeling down, you’ll know what to do next time those feelings creep up.
- Think about why you want to quit drinking: Having a goal in mind will help jump-start your journey. Why do you want to quit drinking? If your reason is simply that you want to do it, that’s fine! Just make sure you know why you want to cut back so that you can keep that in your mind as you go through this process. It’s never easy to quit something, but knowing why you’re doing it will help keep you on track.
Learn how alcohol affects your body
Alcohol can wreak havoc on your body. According to the National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, alcohol pretty much affects you head to toe. Alcohol can make it hard to think clearly, cause strokes or high blood pressure, lead to cirrhosis and weaken your immune system. It may also mess with your sleep, and poor sleep hygiene can lead to further health concerns, like obesity and diabetes. Knowing all the negative effects alcohol has on your physical and mental health can make it easier to understand why you’re better off without it.
Set a goal
Goals can help you stay on track, but sometimes one big goal feels too out of reach. Consider setting smaller goals for yourself (and celebrating them as you go). Rather than one overarching “I want to quit drinking” goal, start by telling yourself you’re going to cut back. Maybe you only drink on weekends for now. Maybe you do a dry January to really jump-start the plan. The American Addiction Centers recommends no more than one drink a day for women and two drinks a day for men, so keep that in mind as you’re setting a goal to cut back.
Create a support system
It’s so much harder to go at this alone, so the loop in the people you trust. Everyone needs a cheerleader
Bamboo buns recipe starts with foraging with Grandma : NPR
Left: Bamboo buns. Right: Kaitlyn Hennacy’s grandmother, Yuehua Zhang.
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Left: Bamboo buns. Right: Kaitlyn Hennacy’s grandmother, Yuehua Zhang.
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All Things We’re Cooking is a series featuring family recipes from you, our readers and listeners, and the special stories behind them. We’ll continue to share more of your kitchen gems throughout the holidays.
The arrival of spring always means a trip to the bamboo forest for Kaitlyn Hennacy and her family, followed by an afternoon making bamboo buns.
It’s been this way for as long as Hennacy can remember — a tradition that started when her mother and grandmother discovered wild bamboo growing near the University of Maryland campus, where her mom was studying in the early 1990s. Hennacy said her grandmother, Yuehua Zhang, immigrated to the US from Niansanli, China, where she grew up cooking with bamboo often.
“My grandma adapted the recipes she had from China … and it became a tradition every year — getting bamboo from the bamboo forest and putting it into these buns,” said Hennacy, who lives in Columbia, Md., not far from the university . “It’s a really great way to take what is seen as kind of a weed in the United States and turn it into something really delicious.”
The trip to forage bamboo usually happens in late April, when the bamboo starts sprouting from the earth in small cones that are about 12 inches tall.
Each person in the group has their own bag to fill as they twist each cone out of the ground. But no one picks more bamboo than Grandma Zhang. The entire process of picking the bamboo and making the buns reminded Hennacy of how hard working her grandma was — and it inspired her own work ethic.
“She turned 80 this year and she still hikes up a hill that is sometimes very muddy,” Hennacy said. “And she fills a heavy sack with bamboo that she carries over her back. And she just doesn’t complain or give up.”
The family makes multiple dishes with the bamboo, but the buns are made first, Hennacy said, as they are best made with fresh bamboo. But frozen works, too.
The bamboo has to be cleaned and blanched, then it’s chopped and mixed with the other filling ingredients. Hennacy learned how to make the buns by watching her grandma, but she had to work to measure everything and write it down because her grandmother cooks from memory.
Grandma Zhang is a master of the process, Hennacy said, and loves to make these for her family.
Hennacy said she and her family are fortunate to have Grandma Zhang living with them. She knows everyone’s favorite foods and routinely fixes healthy meals — she even packs them to go when someone has to travel out of town.
“That’s how caring of a person she is,” Hennacy said. “She shows her love through cooking.”
Bamboo Buns
Recipe submitted by Kaitlyn Hennacy
Columbia, Md.
Ingredients for the dough
- 4 cups flour
- 1 teaspoon instant yeast
- 1 1/4 cups water
Ingredients for the filling
- 1 pound ground pork
- 1 teaspoon salt
- 1 tablespoon of soy sauce
- 1 teaspoon hoisin sauce
- 1/2 pound poached bamboo shoots, thawed if frozen
- 2 teaspoons minced ginger
- 1 teaspoon rice cooking wine
- 2 tablespoons of chicken broth
- 1 tablespoon Chinese pickled vegetables (optional)
Additional ingredients
- Neutral-flavored oil for frying
Directions
Stir together the flour and yeast. Add the water and stir to incorporate.
Knead the dough until smooth, adding more flour or water if necessary. It should be firm but not dry. Cover and let rise for 1 hour, until doubled in size.
Prepare the filling by dicing the bamboo and mixing it with the rest of the filling ingredients.
Knead the dough on a floured work surface. Form it into a long, smooth log. Cut or rip the log into 20 pieces and roll each into a rough ball shape about 1 1/2 inches in diameter.
Taking one ball of dough at a time, flatten it so that the edges are thinner than the center and you have a 3-inch diameter circle. Scoop about 2 tablespoons of filling into the center of the circle, then pinch the edges around the filling to enclose it.
Place the parcel seam side down onto the work surface and press with the palm of your hand to flatten it into a 1 inch-thick disk. Repeat with each piece of dough.
Heat 2 tablespoons of cooking oil in a large rimmed skillet over medium-high heat. Place as many bamboo-filled parcels into the pan as you can, making sure that there is at least a 1/4 inch gap between each.
Add 1/2 cup of water to the pan and